Learn about the breakthrough moments for Pam and Nick from the leadership development coaching program with Michelle and how they’re using it every day at work and in life.

As a new leader, Nick was focused on his team’s engagement and building trust. But he found a lot of his time and energy was going towards one problem employee. The negativity was affecting him and he was struggling to figure out how to balance time with all employees.

“In a coaching session, Michelle asked me, do you think he trusts you? Maybe he’s genuinely unhappy about something else. She encouraged me to be open and honest and just straight-up ask him.”

After a few roleplays with Michelle, Nick gained confidence. When he talked to the team member in an open and intentional meeting, he realized a lot of their requests were pretty easy to address and then the relationship improved.

“It was really an ‘aha’ moment for me because I’m new, and need to remember trust is built over time. It was also a trust issue between me and myself,” Nick said. 

Nick was one of the participants in Michelle’s three-month leadership development training program.

When you speak with Michelle about the programs she builds, her passion comes through. Skill development requires a dynamic approach that encompasses three main stages:

  1. Learning
  2. Personalized feedback through coaching
  3. Practical application in real-life 

It's the integration that creates transformation and impact for the participants.

The breakthrough moments and applying them every day

Pam, another participant in the program, has been leading employees for a few years. She has a self-development mindset and is always looking to improve her leadership skills. 

A lightbulb moment for Pam was learning her DiSC Personality Test and starting to see work interpersonal situations differently. She describes herself as very direct and started to see how that could come across negatively to another personality type. 

Everything DiSC® is a personal development learning experience that measures preferences and tendencies. It gives you a report with your personality traits and how they apply to your leadership and management style. Paige found her report was spot on. 

“Now that I better understand my style and how I manage, I’m able to put myself in other people’s shoes, especially my team and with other managers at my organization.”

When you’re busy in your everyday work, Pam said it seems hard to find time to take a step back and consider others’ perspectives before contributing your own ideas. But one of her takeaways is that she can make the time and it only takes a few minutes. 

“When you’re running from one meeting to the next, you can get so caught up in the work. What I learned is you actually can take a few moments to listen first. Now even in a meeting when someone’s presenting something maybe I don’t agree with, I remind myself their approach is just different. It doesn’t mean it’s wrong or bad, it’s just different. I’m constantly seeing myself take a step back now,” said Pam. 

How to build team trust and break down silos

The ingredients for a cohesive team are common goals, trust, and effective communication. Learning about what this looks like in the program, Pam started to see the gaps at her own company. Teams worked in silos and didn’t always communicate with each other well. This meant people didn’t feel that connected with teams outside of their own. 

After one of her first coaching sessions with Michelle, Pam organized a meeting with her organization’s leadership team.

“I explained how the foundation of a cohesive team was trust with each other and we had opportunities to build that better. As managers, we weren’t always aligned. It was really empowering and one way I quickly applied what I was learning in coaching to my workplace.”

Pam helped create an organization-wide action plan to help build trust, that starts with a few team-building activities and she recommended all leaders take the DISC Personality test. 

Nick also started to see the gaps in his team around trust. In the day and night shift teams he worked with, he noticed there was a distrust between them and people were worried about getting blamed if something went wrong.

“One of the main things I took away from coaching was being real with people. Not sugarcoating things to try to please them. Sometimes people think trust is about being nice and not being a jerk. But really, it’s that the person can be blatantly honest with you,” said Nick. 

He started bringing issues up at weekly team meetings and encouraged people to be open with eachother. Noah continued reminding the team of their shared goals and the importance of helping each other on the opposite shift. They started to see more peer-to-peer recognition and more help with training new people to be the best they can be. 

“Try to help develop people rather than letting them sink. Put your hand in to help. Now we’re really living that and I’ve seen an incredible shift in my team,” said Nick. 

Coaching with a customized training journey

Michelle is a coach and founder of Human-Centric Leadership, a boutique management consulting firm.

She found there were two main gaps in leadership development programs:

  1. There weren’t opportunities to apply what you’re learning to your everyday work and get personalized feedback. 
  2. There wasn’t an all-in-one solution. Often leadership courses focus on one topic, like difficult conversations, team leadership, or personality assessments. This means you could be taking five courses and paying for coaching on top of that. Not very practical or cost-effective.

Michelle builds leadership development programs that involve three stages. Monthly group learning, weekly personal 1:1 coaching, and online coursework. Participants get feedback and support as they learn how to apply their new knowledge.

It’s a two-hour commitment every week and is set up to give participants opportunities to practice the leadership skills they’re learning daily. 

The program focuses on learning your own leadership style so you can bring out the best in yourself and others. It takes you through to lead people in a way that cultivates trust and accountability and how to communicate effectively.

It provides access to mentorship, coaching, and talking through the struggles you’re having in a context that means something to you. 

The ripple effect of coaching 

Michelle’s coaching centers around personal transformation to improve the leader's effectiveness and performance. However, because her coaching focuses on the who not the what, clients see positive impacts in their entire life.

Nick found stress at work was extending into his evenings and off hours. Your energy and stress don’t turn off at the end of your workday, it affects everything in your life too. 

“Michelle takes the stress out of it. When you’re walking through a roleplay conversation with her and we talk through some issues, it takes the pressure off and helps expose the stressors. You hear that there are two sides to every story - Michelle gives you five. She helped open my eyes to see the bigger picture,” said Nick. 

Pam found she still refers back to her coaching sessions often.

“Michelle puts you at ease and builds trust immediately. It blew my mind in a lot of ways. She almost knew me better than me. Michelle could pull these things out in discussions I wouldn’t have thought about. Her ability to relate on a human level helps catapult you to be a better leader,” said Pam. 

“I've taken a lot away about how I perceive myself and the world. I’ve applied it to my friend group, my family, and my work team. This coaching is personal and applicable in every part of your life. Months after the program, the wheels are still turning for me.”

If you’re interested in developing your leadership skills, building trust with your team, and want support to take the stress out of those difficult conversations at work, let’s chat about coaching. 
Book a consultation.  

Written by; Erica Howes

In today's job market, where there is a "war for talent," it's a feast for a job seeker. But is it possible to still experience job grief when jobs are abundant? If you choose to leave for another opportunity, wouldn't you be happy and just go? 

I guess it just depends on the circumstance, and in mine, when I killed off "Corporate Michelle," an era died, and grieving was a harsh reality.

I started with WM in the spring of 1998 as a temporary helper throwing garbage into the back of a truck. I remember the day I tested for my commercial license and passed. That day was the first time in my life that I set my sights on a career. 

I started as a poor, uneducated female in the waste industry with no company connections and no idea that I could excel to the heights that lay ahead. However, I've received six promotions in my career since 2006 and finished as an Area Fleet Director (AFD) in a company of 50,000 strong. I am 1 of 17 AFDs. Wow, I had it made.

At the same time, I always had a narrative that went something like this "If you could do anything as a career, would this be it?" No matter what role I was in or how happy and thriving I was, when that question crossed my mind, the answer was always a quick and firm "no." So I've always been able to put that thought on the backburner since I had no reason to deal with it until I did.

"Don't be afraid to give up good to go for great" John D. Rockefeller.

Job grief can look different depending on the personal story behind it. However, if there is one message you can take from this article, let it be this: Regardless if job loss is at your will or not, it's pretty damn personal! 

In my case, it's a massive part of your life. I lived my values, passion and growth through my work. There are also countless benefits and experiences that my family and I had because of my career, and those are with us forever. The more informed and accepting we are of the reality that grieving a job is real, the better we can support ourselves and others through the process. There are 5 Stages to grief, looking back I can clearly see that I went through all 5.

Denial and Isolation

Earlier this year, that "no" seemed to want to step out of the shadows to be seen once and for all. No matter how much I tried to logic my way into believing different, no matter how much, my brain attempted to suppress the unwanted thoughts, the force of this inner pull was relentless. 

How can I possibly give up the career I worked so damn hard to build? People with my story don't make it. How can I trust the unknown, and how will that impact my family? And heaven forbid I talk to someone about it because then it would be real. 

No. I can't do this, and I won't. So shhh. Deny, move on and, in my case… book a trip.

Anger

This stage was a fun time. Mysteriously every issue at work, anything that was out of place, suddenly became ultra-irritating, which was, of course, everyone else's fault.

If only our team were more _____. If only we could _____. How can this process be so difficult? If we know it, why aren't we changing it? I like how that department just expects this and that. Maybe they should ______.

There were times when my inner voice said, "whoa, who are you right now?" But I continued to shove any ray of reason back down into the dungeons of denial. All those thoughts were significantly out of character. It was apparent I was out of alignment. Maybe part of me thought (even hoped) leaving would be easier if I suddenly hated the company and the team. 

But there just was (and still is) no bona fide hate. 

Bargaining/Desperation

"Ok, you're not growing. That's why you feel stuck. It's ok to take a course, learn and apply it to your career. You'll be better and help those around you". What a great idea! Yeah!"

After hours of research and a few discovery calls, I signed up for the IPEC coaching program. It's an accredited course, which in the end, meant I would have my CPC, certified professional coach designation. 

So here's denial at its finest. I was only taking this course to "grow and be "better." If that were true, why did I pick a program that could help me be employable as a coach in the future? Also, the goal was to facilitate growth within my role, then why did I choose to pay for it? Furthermore, why didn't I share it with those at work until months later?

Actions really do speak louder than words, whether you are ready to face the truth or not.

Depression

After signing up for the program, my focus and spirits lifted, which probably prolonged my denial even more. Nevertheless, it seemed to affirm that my strategy was on point right up until I completed my first in-class training block.

Then it hit me like a slap in the face. Being in this program wasn't just a training strategy. It was my intuition, knowing better than my brain, that it was time for me to step into something that was in total alignment with who I am and what I am ready to express. 

I want to be a coach. I need to be a coach. I want to help liberate the extraordinary potential and gifts we hold within us. I like this for others, for me, for all.

The moment I let myself feel and think all those thoughts was the moment I realized by saying yes to this, I was saying no to that.

The reality is harsh and, for a pocket of time, crushing.

How do I leave a steady paycheck and a career of over two decades? How do I do this to my family? What if I fail and sink this ship? Why would I want to leave something that has been so amazing? And, if coaching feels so right, why is it so damn hard? 

 I needed time to waffle, cry, and make new plans to picture myself outside WM. I just needed time to be sad and say goodbye.

Acceptance

The thing I found with stage 4 is that it was so crushing when I realized I couldn't stay and needed to move on to the next era. So, I just didn't move. I tried to distract myself by building a website, having professional photos taken, and completing school work, but really I was just keeping myself occupied with busy work while I procrastinated to face the inevitable.

I was in a self-induced purgatory, and it was time to get out.

On Tuesday, September 20th, as I spoke to my husband, I allowed myself to say aloud, "I don't want to be the Director of Fleet anymore. All I want to do is Coach". Later that day, I told my boss everything as I bawled my eyes out! I denied my truth for so long that I was overcome with emotion. I tried to suppress it, name it, accept but it was all too much to keep inside anymore.

September 27th, I confirmed that I was leaving at the end of Q1 2023. On September 28th, I wrote my resignation, a day I never imagined would come to be. Finally, on October 4th, I announced to my peer team and then to the Operations and Fleet Leaders that I was leaving. Every time I said it, more of the WM me died while simultaneously, I felt like I could breathe deeper.

As I was killing off my old self, something strange happened. I didn't have to hide it anymore. And because I wasn't hiding it, I stopped losing time and energy. My thoughts started to focus on WM work by day and Coach strategy by night. Because I allowed myself to think like a Coach, because I am a Coach, creativity began to rush through like water bursting through a dam. Finally, I could lean into it, which meant I could see it, believe it, and be it. It was like shifting from winter to spring. I have never felt so alive.

Michelle Nicole Martin
Leadership Coach & Consultant
Top Small Business Voice on LinkedIn

Success is not a Secret, it’s a Mindset

All you have to do is believe in yourself. Yup, that’s it. Or at least, that’s where it all begins If it’s so easy to say, then why is it so damn hard?

Recognizing and believing in your full potential is not easy. First, we tend to be hypercritical and only focus on our "flaws," not in a productive way, but in a just plain mean fashion. Second, we don't lean into our strengths or even recognize them for all they're worth.

So, believing in your full potential is hard, like "America Ninja Warrior" hard. First, you’re going through the obstacle course, barely making it through, always one slip away from failure. Then, you see your inner critic leading the way, grinning back at you, snickering. Telling you are the reasons why you won’t make it.

Playing small, doing what works for you now, is safe and more manageable. The only problem is your heart, and your brain is not in sync. You don't have a chance to come alive in your work ( not entirely), and you have a feeling, one that you keep hidden. A feeling that tells you that you can be more and further, you believe you can, but you don't know for sure because you haven't given yourself the opportunity to try.

If any of these resonate with you or someone you know, keep reading.

Be on the lookout for these 3 Mindset Villains.

You can't believe what you can't see.

Is this you? You're always downplaying your gifts because you're worried about what others will think. You don't want to come across as boastful, full of yourself, or attention seeking. You dim your light to be “polite”, but the side effect is that you never get to see your brightest light. 

For you - How does this action help you? It's hard to get promoted if leaders never see what you're capable of doing. It's even harder to stand out in the market if you always have your head down working hard. In the end, if you don't let yourself see your gift, you won't believe you have it. The heart believes, what the mind sees.

For the others – Consider this instead. Think about something you can do exceptionally well. It's easy for you, and maybe you don't fully understand why it's easy for you and not others, but regardless you love it, and you're willing to help when asked. Other people don't seem to get it the way you do. 

Now, what if you thought of that as a gift, and those of us who don't have your gift, desperately need it to make our lives easier? Wouldn't you share it if you thought it could help someone? If you knew someone was desperate for it?

Here's the thing, we can't see your gift if you’re always hiding and downplaying it! The part to solve is the why. Why do hide your gift? Or why don’t you see your gift as a gift? Solve that! Because people need what you have.

"The meaning of life is to find your gift. The purpose of life is to give it away." – Pablo Picasso

We don't have a safe place to spread our wings.

Having psychological safety gives you the courage to try. When you work with someone who has your back and believes in you, is proud to work with you, is engaged in helping you, and is judgement-free no matter how you stumble, you feel safe enough to open up and try.

Picture this, your light is locked in a safe, and while it’s in there, we go through a range of emotions. We go from suppression to hope, to anxious excitement, to action and Boom! the safe flies open and your light (also known as your gift) is free to shine and flourish. Oh, it's exhilarating!! As a coach, this is my favorite stage to experience with someone.

When you feel safe, self-doubt subsides. Your mission is to find a way to feel safe and take action toward the best version of yourself while reaching your full potential.

"Self-Doubt Kills more Dreams than Failure ever Will" Check out this article by L.K Monu Borkala for Tips on beating self-doubt. Negative Effects of Doubt | Research Backed (collegemarker.com)

Because "it" didn't work before, you give up before you start.

I love to stand up against this thought. People, circumstances and situations change all the time, and I have seen even the smallest changes in these areas open up the door for opportunity. But when that door opens, you need to be ready to walk through and say hello!

I wish it were that easy for everyone all the time, but in this section, our limiting beliefs can be a real bitch. Traditionally, in the business world, the focus is on the result. You are expected to know the task and get it done. I'm sure it comes across much more pleasant than that but that's the size of it in a nutshell. However, if you have a great partner, boss, mentor or coach, and you have psychological safety, this is an excellent time to find the courage to dig deep. 

Addressing limiting beliefs will not only improve your work performance, but it will also lighten the load you've been carrying. It will shift momentum towards the positive, which means confidence, stretching, growing, and finding resilience through setbacks. You'll be creating a self-made renewable source of energy that will feel like the wind on your back!

Addressing and conquering limiting beliefs will change your life. Period.

Getting started is the hardest part. Usually, at this point in the conversation, when I’m working with someone, we review the behavior triangle.

Behavior Loop

The idea behind the behavior triangle is that our experiences form our beliefs, our belief determines our actions, then our actions create our results. The results feed our experiences, rinse and repeat for every facet of our lives. 

Notice anything? It's a self-fulfilling prophecy!! All you must do is break the cycle. Act different, get different.

Suppose that feels a bit ick for you, like you can't believe it. Ask yourself, how would I think, feel, and act if I thought the outcome would be different? Get feedback from people you trust. Put effort into a strategy, get behind that effort with all your heart and go for it again.

I prefer to view the behavior triangle in circle form because in real life, it’s a continuous loop and this loop can be empowering or discouraging. The biggest opponent we face is ourselves. The crumby thing is that we always tend to remember the discouraging memories over the positive ones. Getting burned seems to happen instantly, whereas progress seems to take its sweet ol' time. That's a perception play. All results are earned, whether you mean to or not.

As you reflect on the parts of the story that are true for you, the question that remains is, what is one thing you can do today to lean into the person you were meant to be?

Go for it, I believe you can.

Michelle Nicole Martin
Leadership Coach & Consultant
Top Small Business Voice on LinkedIn
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